*Acceptance*

Resistance is always worthless as it only Sustains Your Suffering*
Whenever anger appears inside your mind, you will notice that you are in a
state of resistance, or non-acceptance, towards an event, a set of
circumstance or the other person - sometimes all three. Resistance is the
seed of all conflict between people. Resistance sustains the cycle of
violence with others and with yourself, and it is driven by the emotions of
fear and anger. This is why the first step to resolve all conflict is always
acceptance. It is to accept the past is past and nothing can change it. It
is to accept that other people's behaviour cannot be controlled, because you
cannot control their thoughts and decisions, and you definitely cannot
control their beliefs and perceptions (ways of looking at things).
Acceptance means that you are able to think calmly, see clearly, create
options and make better decisions. Acceptance is the first step out of
anger, out of your self-inflicted pain and suffering, and into peace.

shri Guru Granth Saheb-page 127
ਦੂਜੈ ਭਾਇ ਪੜੈ ਨਹੀ ਬੂਝੈ ॥
दूजै भाइ पड़ै नही बूझै ॥
Ḏūjai bẖā▫e paṛai nahī būjẖai.
One who reads, while attached to duality, does not understand.

ਤ੍ਰਿਬਿਧਿ ਮਾਇਆ ਕਾਰਣਿ ਲੂਝੈ ॥
त्रिबिधि माइआ कारणि लूझै ॥
Ŧaribaḏẖ mā▫i▫ā kāraṇ lūjẖai.
He yearns for the three-phased Maya.

ਤ੍ਰਿਬਿਧਿ ਬੰਧਨ ਤੂਟਹਿ ਗੁਰ ਸਬਦੀ ਗੁਰ ਸਬਦੀ ਮੁਕਤਿ ਕਰਾਵਣਿਆ ॥੩॥
त्रिबिधि बंधन तूटहि गुर सबदी गुर सबदी मुकति करावणिआ ॥३॥
Ŧaribaḏẖ banḏẖan ṯūtėh gur sabḏī gur sabḏī mukaṯ karāvaṇi▫ā. ||3||
The bonds of the three-phased Maya are broken by the Word of the Guru's Shabad. Through the Guru's Shabad, liberation is achieved. ||3||

ਇਹੁ ਮਨੁ ਚੰਚਲੁ ਵਸਿ ਨ ਆਵੈ ॥
इहु मनु चंचलु वसि न आवै ॥
Ih man cẖancẖal vas na āvai.
This unstable mind cannot be held steady.

ਦੁਬਿਧਾ ਲਾਗੈ ਦਹ ਦਿਸਿ ਧਾਵੈ ॥
दुबिधा लागै दह दिसि धावै ॥
Ḏubiḏẖā lāgai ḏah ḏis ḏẖāvai.
Attached to duality, it wanders in the ten directions.

ਬਿਖੁ ਕਾ ਕੀੜਾ ਬਿਖੁ ਮਹਿ ਰਾਤਾ ਬਿਖੁ ਹੀ ਮਾਹਿ ਪਚਾਵਣਿਆ ॥੪॥
बिखु का कीड़ा बिखु महि राता बिखु ही माहि पचावणिआ ॥४॥
Bikẖ kā kīṛā bikẖ mėh rāṯā bikẖ hī māhi pacẖāvaṇi▫ā. ||4||
It is a poisonous worm, drenched with poison, and in poison it rots away. ||4||

ਹਉ ਹਉ ਕਰੇ ਤੈ ਆਪੁ ਜਣਾਏ ॥
हउ हउ करे तै आपु जणाए ॥
Ha▫o ha▫o kare ṯai āp jaṇā▫e.
Practicing egotism and selfishness, they try to impress others by showing off.

ਬਹੁ ਕਰਮ ਕਰੈ ਕਿਛੁ ਥਾਇ ਨ ਪਾਏ ॥
बहु करम करै किछु थाइ न पाए ॥
Baho karam karai kicẖẖ thā▫e na pā▫e.
They perform all sorts of rituals, but they gain no acceptance.

ਤੁਝ ਤੇ ਬਾਹਰਿ ਕਿਛੂ ਨ ਹੋਵੈ ਬਖਸੇ ਸਬਦਿ ਸੁਹਾਵਣਿਆ ॥੫॥
तुझ ते बाहरि किछू न होवै बखसे सबदि सुहावणिआ ॥५॥
Ŧujẖ ṯe bāhar kicẖẖū na hovai bakẖse sabaḏ suhāvaṇi▫ā. ||5||
Without You, Lord, nothing happens at all. You forgive those who are adorned with the Word of Your Shabad. ||5||